Hello friends - old and new! The following was a post from one of Carol's blog site that I wanted to share with you, as I think there is some great info in it for understanding your BEINGNESS Quotient.
Did you know there is magic in YOU?
There is. It is found in your Beingness – and your Beingness Quotient is what we are going to increase. You get it the more awake and aware you are and how much attention you place on improving your IQ, your EQ, and thus, your BQ!
This Blog post is going to reveal it! You’ll be getting many valuable tips and insights to help you understand yourself and others better. You’ll see there is magic in terms of each different personality style people bring. And you’ll learn how to adapt your own style to be the most effective – with anyone and in any type of situation.
We are all different in every different situation. What the BQI DISC PeopleSmart Method teaches is a way to really “see” others when they walk in a room. Most people relate to you from who you are BEING. Most people know you from what they can observe. Your observable behavior speaks volumes about you!
So do you know what it is saying? You will learn that here in this blog.
I love teaching and writing about the truth – starting with what and who people are being. We call it your Beingness Quotient - that FULL potential of YOU that is expressing who you are and who you want to be – whether you even know it or not. It is what allows you to appreciate others - just for who they are - too!
As you already know, your personality is not the whole story about you. Of course it isn’t! There is so much more that even your best friends may not know about who you are deep inside.
But isn't it true that a certain 'way of being' walks in the door when you show up – a something that wasn’t already there before you came in? And wouldn't it be useful to know what others admire and like about you? And wouldn’t it be great if there was a way to turn down (or up) the volume on certain qualities that are natural in your style, but that may be irritating to people with other styles?
How about if you could "people-read" and immediately know the style and what motivates others? THIS is the gift we bring you through all of our sites, tools and programs!
When I meet someone new and I mention specific traits I notice about them in just a few minutes of our meeting, my comments aren’t just about what they are wearing or how they look. I know which traits they value – in themselves and in others – for example:
Do you want to learn where I look to see that? If you do want to learn to see what I see - and I'll teach it to you in many different formats – come back here on a regular basis. I promise that once you understand your own style and how you got to have it or chose it, you will find it is easier to enjoy other people just the way they are – or aren’t!
If you want to know more about the gifts that you bring to the world, just by being who you are, then you'll love this BLOG.
You’ll also enjoy our Webinars. If you have taken one of our Profiles you’ll want to contact us asking to sign up for the next free 75 minute Webinar DISC Profile Interpretation and Q&A's call.
If you want to enroll and learn from us sign up for our DISC Basics Certification Training. Much of it is done on-line!
You can also just get started on your own – learning a little at a time - by going to out store and purchasing the DISC Basics Manual and Self Study Guide. Or why not take our Online Virtual Training and study at your own pace.
Regardless of how you get it, this is learning you will use for the rest of your life!
My work and sharing about what I’ve learned about people from doing thousands of profiles for over 30 years, is my chance to give back to the world. Having done profiles for all types of people - individuals, couples, family members, and all types of businesses and their executives, managers, and employees, every type of culture, and every age - it has given me insights that most never have the opportunity to get for themselves – seeing people, their profile graphs and hearing the stories they tell about why they do things the way they do and whether it still works for them… or not!
This has created a montage of images and impressions that now translates into the art and science of “People-Reading” – a valuable skill we can teach you if you will follow the steps we recommend. You’ll have lots of chances to practice - given that you are always interacting with people - everywhere you go!
So we welcome you now and look forward to seeing you often here. Feel free to comment on things that we say that strike a chord with you or if there are subjects we mention that you want to go deeper into.
Until next time, keep that smile on your face...you are perfect just the way you are!
Some conversations tend to be one sided. That is some styles like to do all the talking, and some styles just don't like talking at all! So how do we overcome this when managing a group of people?
Here is the answer...
It is called a WHAT I FEEL LIKE SAYING process or a WIFLS
This process is great to use when starting and finishing a meeting, or for using when there is conflict in a team that must be cleared or when a team needs to align on something. The process has certain steps and each step uses specific words or statements the person speaking must use. It is a positive ritual that any group can gain value from.
Clearing the mind of clutter
Each time a group meets, go through this ritual to help everyone clear what is on their mind, so they can be more present and engaged with the group, and to feel heard by other people. Go over the rules in advance when using the process for the first time. It may take a few times for people to learn to trust the process.
Rules of the WIFLS process
NO ONE ELSE CAN SPEAK or RESPOND when the Person is sharing. Then it will go quickly and the leader will be able to see if anything needs to be handled outside of the group meeting.
Person #1 starts and says...
“What I feel like saying is...."____ " They share for a minute or two whatever is on their mind. Whether it is good, bad, or indifferent. It can be anything from... “I burnt the toast”, or “I got cut off on the freeway…” or “My kids are so great – today I got…” or “I’m ready to have a melt down I feel so ……”
And NO ONE SAYS A WORD TO THEM. Everyone else just LISTENS.
Then the person speaking finishes up by saying, "And that's what I feel like saying."
Group says... "Thank you (name)"
The person that was sharing turns to the person on their left and says... "And what do you feel like saying, (name)?"
Person #2 says...
"What I feel like saying is...... _______"
"And that's what I feel like saying."
etc., around the group.
WHY THE WIFLS PROCESS IS SO VALUABLE TO DO AT THE BEGINNING OF EVERY TEAM MEETING:
Even though to some it will feel like it takes too much time, this process is a very good investment because it actually gets a team of people into alignment and understanding what’s going on with each other so they:
After everyone has shared, Leader can judge if the energy is still high and ask if the group wants to go around another time. Or can ask if anyone still has a “burning share.”
If someone has shared something disturbing or upsetting to them or someone else in the group, the leader can seek them out later and ask if they may speak with them about the issue. But if the person says, NO, then they should honor the space agreed to not to discuss anything more about it.
This process is a version of “clearing” processes and is taught in Money & You®.
For questions or more explanation about how to apply and use this process, CONTACT Sandra Davis
Carol and Sandra are passionate about supporting others to be the best they can be through sharing their stories and experiences they have gained along the way...