A friend of mine recently completed a leadership profile assessment report. After reading it, his comment to me was... Well it's scary to think a program can know you better than you know your self!!
When I am working with clients, I hear this comment all the time. So many of us just haven't got a clue about who we are BEING in the world, or understand what drives our personality . That's why I love DISC so much. You see once you complete a DISC profile, you learn what NEEDS, EMOTIONS and FEARS are driving your behaviour.
The information in your profile awakens you to how you interact with people. It is the key that leads to an understanding of the basic nature of what it is to be human – active, independent, loving, social, loyal, kind, intelligent and creative. Once seen and recognized, one has NO PROBLEM in relating to other people and getting the results each needs, wants... and deserves.
I know my DISC style... now how do I apply it in my life?
Once you understand that the results you are getting in life relate to your needs, emotions, fears and behavior, you then have the power to choose how you respond in the moment. If the result is not one that empowers you, then look to see what mindset or belief is driving that behavior. Look to see who you are BEING.
Human beings are intelligent and emotional, and fundamentally need to interact with each other. Most of us do not choose to live out our life on a desert island. We need each other to BE in the world. Who we are BEING can be explained in three parts. The first part is our Intelligence Quotient or IQ – our aptitude, cleverness and how we use our brain. Then there is our Emotional Quotient or EQ – the beliefs, mindsets and feelings we have. And thirdly there is our People Literate Quotient our PQ – understanding and the knowledge we have about people. Put them all together we have our BEINGNESS QUOTIENT or BQ. Cultural, spiritual and religious beliefs also influence the three quotients.
Life is about balance. When all three quotients are aligned and you are conscious of what drives your BQ you can then also understand how others relate. Which is where life STARTS... and STOPS!!!
Have you ever come across people that leave a lasting impression in your life? You know, the ones that you may not have met in person but have influenced your thinking and how you are choosing to BE in the world. I often look to Mahatma Gandhi for wisdom. His gentle approach to life is testament to the fact that strength does not equal physical capacity. In the western world, we're taught that to be strong, we must be ferocious in attitude and vehemently go after what we want in life. His life story has proven that it’s possible to remain gentle in spirit, yet simultaneously command a huge amount of strength and respect. He says: “In a gentle way, you can shake the world.”
In a world in which authority is valued over authentic leadership, I believe we have a lot to learn from the man who fought for a nation with his mind alone.
Gandhi’s philosophy was not purely based on theory; instead he lived by rules of pragmatism. He practiced what he preached every day of his life. What an inspiring, authentic way to live! BEING authentic is the key, when it comes to style, know matter what style we are. If you own who you are BEING it is much easier to be authentic. The following Mahatma Gandhi quotes are some of my favourite and I see all the styles within them. See if you can to...
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