Bickering between siblings can be very draining to some kids, not to mention us as parents as well. Does your child get upset easily and lock themselves in their bedroom a lot? Does one of your kids just cruise along in life with high energy levels, is outgoing and the life of the party, and the other one is not?
There are introverts and extroverts in the world. Each one has a different temperament, that comes with a whole set of behaviours. Introverts are energised by spending time on their own, while extroverts are energised by spending time in the company of others. In the DISC Behavioural Model high D and I Styles tend to be seen as Extroverts, whereas the high S and C Styles are seen as Introverts.
If your child is an Introvert they are energised by spending time on their own. So don't be alarmed, thinking they are isolating themselves from the rest of the family if they like to spend time in their bedroom. Sometimes when coming home from school, where they have been spending their day socializing and interacting with others, they need to take time out to recharge their batteries. Remember that home is a safe space where they can chill out.
Extroverts on the other hand, are energised by spending time in the company of other and tend to like social events and recharging their batteries by interacting with people and socialising. A high I Style teen will definitely like heading to the mall after school to hangout with their friends!
They Connect Differently
The child that is a high C Style Introvert likes one-on-one, deep conversations, where they can analyse and think about all the details. The child that is a high S Style Introvert tends to need more time to mentally process new situations before they interact with others and also need time to think about how they are feeling. They like to form deep relationships and really love getting to know someone, their hobbies, interests, etc. Both Styles are happy to have only a handful of friends.
Whereas the high D and I Style Extroverts seem to like group conversations. The high I Style Extrovert likes being friends with many people but they don't feel the need to form deep relationships as the Introverts do.
Are you starting to see your children in any of these statements? I just want to say that there is no good or bad temperament to have. Some people think that Introverted children are shy. It's not that they're shy, it's just that they are thinkers. The high S Style Introvert will be deep in thought or "thoughtful". There's a big difference to being shy vs a deep thinker.
So, remember that all behaviour is communication, communicating the emotions and needs relating to the four style's temperaments. In the world there are introverts and extroverts and it's not about Introverts being anti social. At the end of the day it's all about where your child get's their energy. It is our job as parents to help our kids be who they are in the world, whether they are Introverted or Extroverted.
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